Update 2

Well it was short lived but it was nice to have a couple hours with out my children. Yesterday I had high hopes. I dropped my children off and I went to climb Cowles Mountain. I climbed up the mountain listening to praise music and praying. I had some time talking with God about my son. I know he can see the big picture but I am struggling right now. As a human I want it to be fixed right now. Anyway as I came down the mountain I thought I had some fresh thoughts and a clear head. Than my phone rang, it was VBS could you please come get your son. As I drove over to get him I began to ask for wisdom to know how to respond. Upon my arrival none of the ladies spoke to me and the judging looks were all on me. As I got Brayden and Hayley who was with him we left. As I left the room one lady came running down the hall do you think you will come back tomorrow, as I stood there feeling like crying I just said no and thank you. As I spoke with Hayley and asked what happened she said that he wouldn’t sit down for lesson time and when they went outside he wouldn’t play the games. I said did he hit, she said no bit,push? No I felt like this was a victory. God have me this to remember they are only little once and this will pass. I praise my son for not hitting and pray that we will learn to sit for story time. Today is a new day and I can’t wait to see what God has in store for me.

update

Day one started wonderful. My oldest daughter decided to go to VBS as a helper. I had the morning to myself. It was great. Fast forward to the pick up. As I am in prayer as I wait in line to pick my little angel up I say his name the ladies in the room look at me. The head lady comes towards me could you please come in here, we need to talk to you. My heart sinks as I hear about my son. He had a rough morning. I said sorry and left feeling like mother of the year. They said please bring him again. So today my oldest daughter is going to stay in his room with him. If he can not be good he won't go back. I know it might just be to much for him. I will spend this morning in prayer. I know this will pass but when you are in the middle of going through a rough time it is hard to see the other side. I will update later on our day.

SUMMER

Friday was my children’s last day of school and I have wasted no time in signing us up for VBS. This year Brayden can go. I am very excited but I did spend last night praying that he would be a good boy. He did not do so well at church yesterday. Anyway I don’t think VBS is meant to make you break out with hives praying that your son is good. I will give you an update this afternoon. Pray for Brayden wait maybe the other children.

DOG SHOW

Ok there was not much on TV last night so I was watching Animal Planets dog show. I have a few thoughts. First do they not have mirrors at these shows? The ladies that showed the dogs are wearing the worst outfits. Most have suits on from the 80’s and brown tennis shoes, or some have very nice sweat outfits made of shinny nylon. I also noticed that the announcer liked to say bitch a lot. It was a bit strange as he described every other dog as a bitch and of course he has several bitches at home. But the very best thing was they have different judges for each division. So as the hound group came out the judge and expert on hounds came out. She was about 65 years old a little larger. She had on nice flat black shoes. She was also wearing a black sequined top. Then the best was her full length black skirt. Now this seemed like a great choice, I thought finally a woman that can dress her age and look nice. But then as she turn to reveal a slit in the side of her skirt that went all the way up her thigh. Yes it is true, I am not kidding she had a slit to the middle of her thigh. I was in shock. I called Bret over made him look. As I am writing this now and I am remembering this and wondering what was she thinking.

We WON

My daughter has been playing softball for three months. Many games two hours each and we have lost every game. But tonight our last game we won. I am so excited for my daughter and all of her teamates. All of us parents were just screaming in shock. As your children get older you want them to experience wins and losses. But tonight we WON.

A WEEK WITH THE JOEL'S

What a crazy week. My children had last week off and I of course tried to make it great. We went to two movies the beach twice and the batting cages. I am just tired thinking about our week. We also had two softball games a horseback lesson and Karate lesson. The high light of the week was our new family member. We had to put one of our family dogs to sleep two years ago and I have wanted to get another dog for a while. I new we would get one this summer I just thought it would be later. So the girls and I started looking at all the shelters and a few rescue groups. We found a dog we wanted from a non-profit group called paws for passion. They had an address of La Jolla. Anyway I emailed about a dog. A lady called me back we thought it would be a great match. Then she said she was in San Pedro. Now the dog looked and sounded nice but I was not going to drive with my three kids and my dog to go see it. So we keep looking. Then Friday night at 10p I got an email that she would bring the dog to Enceintes to meet us in Saturday. We meet the dog and fell in love. He was a stray dog that was about to be destroyed till he was rescue. I love that my children are learning that just because a dog is not a puppy, that it doesn’t mean it’s not a great dog. They can see how we are saving a dog from being destroyed. I also prefer older dogs I have to many puppies of my own. Teddy is a chow-akita mix. He is full grown and a little smaller than our other dog. He has let Brayden lay on him drive a truck in to him and doesn’t move. He does bark. Which I like my other dog never does. With Bret getting ready to leave I want a dog that will a least let me know if someone is coming in. Well this is my week. Oh wait what about Sunday we went to church my daughters want to double services because they sing in the galaxy worship choir. I came to second service loved it than I see my loving sons # flashing at the end. So I walked down the aisle prepare my heart for what I was about to hear. I am told about how my son was hitting and bit another child. Now Brayden is a hitter but this is the first bit. Natalie proceeded to tell me that if he couldn’t act like a good boy he couldn’t come back. So I ended my weekend on the knees asking God for guidance about my son. I also spent hours on the internet looking for help. I started my day with a positive outlook awaiting to see what God has in store this week.

My Kids

I know God has a sense of Humor. I look at my kids and how different they all are and how different they are from me. My oldest daughter Hayley smart as a whip. (well that is just like me) . She sees things very black or white no gray a rule follower she is also shy. She is also not the most graceful child, sometimes she is just standing there and falls down. Then there is the middle one Alyssa. She also is very smart (again just like her mama). She is very popular and personable. Alyssa is also a leader and wants to be the life of the party. (not sure where she gets that). Alyssa is also our athlete she excels at every sport she does it comes very easy for her. This is also my child who is very competitive and has melt downs when she losses. This brings me to my son Brayden. He makes me laugh and cry daily. He asks a lot of questions and is very determined. He also likes to tell me he loves me 20 times a day. As we have been potty training he would rather pee outside than in the house. He also likes to sit around naked and put the soft blanket on himself. (he must get that from Bret). As I see each week fly by and once in a while slow down to look at what a gift I have in my children I wonder what God has in store for them and me. I laugh that my oldest is the opposite of me at that age but I am so very grateful that she is. Alyssa can have me so angry in seconds but I know she will never be pushed around and I don’t worry about people picking on her. I’m not sure yet about Brayden at this point he just wants to have lots of buddies and go on a pirate ship. I try not to take credit for all the great things my children do because than I have to take credit for the not so great things. I love being a mom and am so thankful for the job.